Accused of having an erection at work, but I don’t have a penis.

Facing False Accusations at Work: My Journey and Need for Guidance

In a troubling situation, I find myself grappling with false accusations at my workplace. As a beauty therapist and masseuse at a prominent spa hotel in Scotland, my professional duties often involve close interactions with clients. However, a peculiar issue has arisen due to the unflattering uniform we are required to wear—resembling stiff, oversized hospital scrubs. This attire tends to bunch awkwardly when sitting, leading to unintentional appearances that could be misconstrued.

While my misconduct has never been a concern in treatment rooms, the low chairs in our staff area create uncomfortable situations that are entirely unintentional. Unfortunately, in my spa, men are a minority, and those in similar uniforms are even rarer. I am now facing whispers and slanderous claims spread by a colleague who may harbor resentment towards me. She has gone so far as to inform our coworkers and clients that I am engaging in inappropriate behavior, suggesting that I am deriving pleasure from my professional interactions with clients, despite being openly married to a man.

As the rumors circulate, my professional reputation is at stake. Although I have not yet suffered financial losses—since I am compensated by the hour with the addition of tips—I have noticed a decline in clients, including one regular who has sought services elsewhere. Compounding my anxiety is my side business, which offers similar services from the comfort of my home but may also suffer if these rumors persist.

The crux of my defense lies in a crucial detail: I am a trans man and do not possess a penis, meaning I cannot have an erection at work or elsewhere. This fact, while ultimately my safeguard, poses its own dilemma as I have lived comfortably and privately as my true self for nearly two decades. I find myself in a position where I would rather not reveal my identity to address a situation of hearsay and gossip.

I am reaching out for advice on two fronts: how can I defend myself against any potential disciplinary repercussions at work, and how can I counter these damaging claims without revealing my trans identity? I am actively engaged with my union, which has been supportive of LGBT issues, but I hope to resolve this matter without escalating it to that level. I have a deep connection to my workplace and would be heartbroken to leave under such circumstances.

After considering the input from supportive voices, I understand the importance of addressing these allegations. Despite my colleague’s misguided actions, I believe her

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